Should I Leave Well Alone…..

Good afternoon my dear – I have a little thought that I want to chat with you about immediately, before it goes out of my mind and I completely forget it.  Please bear with me.  This isn’t one of the usual conversations I have with you.  It’s been bubbling around in my head for some time, but I’m now ready to voice it, so need to garner an opinion from you.

I know that sounds a rather silly thing to say – that I could have some news, or an idea, and then forget it.   The problem is that once I think I’ve mentioned it to you then I just let go of it – and it’s gone – possibly for a few days, but on other occasions it could be for a month or even longer.

However, I really must tell you about this now.  I’m sure you remember that there is a university not too far from here and they – as many universities do, have halls of residence on campus, where first year students can choose to stay.  Some universities have accommodation blocks where students can live through most of their course – possibly three years or more.  Having said that, most folk like to move out after their first year and find somewhere local to rent, together with a group of their friends.  I’m aware that residential student accommodation is hard to come by and quite expensive.

Now I know you’re thinking, “what the heck is she rambling on about today” which is a really valid question.  Yes, I do have a possible answer, but it isn’t straightforward so you’re going to have to bear with me.

The first point is that our local university has been looking for extra accommodation which isn’t within the “halls” system, but where they know that students will be in a safe and secure environment.

The second part of this is that having students who rent large houses and live together, doesn’t necessarily give the best outcome.  There really needs to be a blend of age groups in order for students to integrate themselves in any community.

I’ve been aware that the university has been looking for a solution to their growing accommodation problems, and have been listening to their ideas with some considerable interest.  My understanding is that they would like students to live in a community situation with other folk close by, and want them to get involved with people in all age groups.  This is where it becomes very complicated.  How do you mix the various ages so that everyone benefits?  Is it something that would be acceptable and practical, or would there be resistance from various factions?


I’ve been giving it some thought, and there may be an answer – however, it will be expensive.  I’ll come back to cost implications at another time, but for now I’m wondering whether something could be achieved so that young and old could live under one roof?  Alternatively could they live together in reasonable harmony, albeit it not within one building but in close proximity?

What do you think?  Is this a silly idea of mine – something completely off the wall, which shouldn’t even be considered?  I really would appreciate your comments on this rather thorny dilemma.  Perhaps it’s none of my business and I should leave it to others who are much better qualified than me. 

So my dear – should I leave well alone, or do you think my idea has “legs” and worth taking to the next level?    So back to the title – Should I leave well alone?…   Nah, that’s not me!!   As Always –

With Love – Jan  xx

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I'm retired, disabled and after sudden death of wonderful husband, have moved closer to my son, daughter-in-law and baby, Charlie. I live in sheltered housing at the bottom end of the scale called Independent Living. I had been in an online Knit and Natter group for a couple of years before Ian died and the members of the group were and still are a wonderful support to me. Since moving here I have now got my own little Facebook group where the members are now my friends and extended family. It was suggested that I write a blog - so here we are!!

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  1. I think it’s a perfectly good idea. After all for centuries people of all ages have lived in relative harmony, it’s called family and community. It works because social groups need he diversity of different ages and ideas, and teaches the younger people consideration, compassion and the older people, tolerance. Each age group has something to give and teach.
    Are you think of something like a mixed age community residential complex, along the lines of where you live now, but for different generations?
    It does sound an interesting idea.


    1. Frances – it’s a reasonably sensible suggestion – I just need to find out more before seeing whether there is any possibility of it working in this area. It wouldn’t be possible in this building as the flats are too small, but I have a couple of ideas floating around in my brain. xx


  2. I think there is a scheme like this in the Netherlands. Young people living alongside the elderly helping out with everyday tasks. Works OK if they aren’t too noisy or untidy I suppose!


  3. It’s certainly not a silly idea Jan. Sometimes these arrangements are very successful. Other times not quite so. I think it depends if the two generations take to each other. Look forward to hearing more. x


    1. Hi Maggie – I really hope it may be possible, but how to go about it? Where could it be based and why am I thinking about getting involved with it… I really don’t know xx


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