How Many Days Left!…

Good Evening, my dear, and I’m really pleased to have your company again.  I’ve just been tying myself up in knots when I realised how few days are left before the Wedding of the Year.  Yes, less than thirty days and all of a sudden I feel completely unprepared.

I know I’m being really silly and in fact, have managed to organise practically everything – but now, of course, I’m at the point of wondering whether I’ve completely forgotten about an item, which hasn’t even made it as far as the “to-do” list.  That sounds very convoluted, but I’m sure you understand me.  If you don’t by now, you really don’t have any business to be getting involved!

However, be that as it may, I thought I probably should let you know the current situation.  The first and major thing is that by Georgie and I have – by pure luck – managed to find an outfit that we are happy with – and even more pertinent, fits us and we are comfortable wearing.  That’s the good news – the not quite so ideal point is that we both need a second outfit to wear for the reception.  I had planned on wearing the same as for the wedding, but Georgie has persuaded me that it wouldn’t look right as they are being held on different days.

I’m still not sure why it matters – but apparently it does, and as we have managed to travel this far along the way without either of us raising our voices at all, it seems to be a tad churlish on my part to create a problem which isn’t necessary.

The other thing is that I can purchase something slightly more casual and comfortable to wear for the reception – which seems as if it will continue for hours.  I really don’t like the idea of spending cash when it isn’t needed, but on this occasion I feel inclined to bite my tongue.

So, we both have an outfit for the actual wedding and Georgie will wear it for the remainder of that day, whereas I will be travelling back here on the Friday afternoon and will have reverted to leggings and a jumper for sitting in the car.  I’m probably going to a couple of reunions later in the year, so will be able to wear my “posh” outfit to one of them.

Mrs. M asked me to look for suit or dress and jacket for her.  I’ve shown her details of a couple that I think are suitable but I don’t think she was convinced by either of them.  I didn’t want to get annoyed with her, so I suggested she had a look online and let me know if she wanted my opinion.

I’ve been quite busy over the past couple of days and have had a steady stream of visitors which has been lovely.  Alex came to see me yesterday afternoon – he came alone as we had several matters to discuss, and I’m sure you will understand when I say that trying to talk about anything when you have a small child and a toddler running around, is completely impossible.  Even with Chrissie trying to keep their attention anything approaching a sensible conversation is quite difficult.  So, on this occasion we decided that it would be easier for Alex to come alone.

It was lovely to see him again and we did manage to make some progress.  – Alex will be speaking to his solicitor this week – we both use the same firm, which is convenient – with a view to establishing what is legal regarding the situation at Lavinia Court, and what we need to “suck it and see”.  I’m certainly not getting myself involved with anything illegal, even though we may have the moral high-ground.

However, we both feel that the current situation is untenable, so our solicitor will be asking the legal representatives for Lavinia Court how they plan on dealing with all of the outstanding work.  I don’t expect them to respond, certainly not with anything meaningful, but at least they will realise that we’re not going to ignore the situation.

I had a short visit from Teddy and Harry earlier today which was lovely.  Teddy rang and asked if it would be convenient for them to call in for a coffee – well, her, not Harry – although it wouldn’t surprise me if he enjoyed a bowl of coffee!  Anyway, it was great to see them.  Teddy is extremely busy at work – she always is, though so that wasn’t unexpected to hear.  We had a chat about the wedding and of course she will be attending the reception, but without Harry.  It wouldn’t be fair for him to come as there will be far too many young children chasing around and I’m sure it would be too much for him.

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I’m expecting to see Giselle later this week as she and Jane have now discussed the menu and know what they are both making ahead of time.  G has also managed for find some students who will help with clearing the tables and serving the wine etc – just to make things run more smoothly.  Hazel has also been in touch with her ideas for keeping the children entertained.  It all sounds wonderful, and it’s good to know that it’s another thing I won’t need to worry about.

Right then my dear, I think that brings us up to date.  I hope that you are keeping well and that could haven’t caught this awful bug which is doing the rounds.  I’ll be in touch again in a couple of days to let you know whether I’m making any progress with Head Office – somehow I doubt it.  As Always –

With Love – Jan  xx  

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I'm retired, disabled and after sudden death of wonderful husband, have moved closer to my son, daughter-in-law and baby, Charlie. I live in sheltered housing at the bottom end of the scale called Independent Living. I had been in an online Knit and Natter group for a couple of years before Ian died and the members of the group were and still are a wonderful support to me. Since moving here I have now got my own little Facebook group where the members are now my friends and extended family. It was suggested that I write a blog - so here we are!!

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  1. How lovely to hear from you. I’m so glad that things are starting to come together regarding the wedding. I think it’s only natural to wonder if you’ve forgotten something important- I do this when I’m in the supermarket, so i wouldn’t worry too much. If it hasn’t come to light, it probably won’t be anything important. Here, I’m assuming that along with outfits you have remembered shoes and handbags, hair and makeup etc.
    It will be interesting to see what Alex and the solicitor find out won’t it, and I’m sure you’ll share it in due course.
    Looking forward to hearing from you soon. X


    1. Thanks Frances – I hadn’t thought about hair or make-up…. Ooops!! Georgie normally does her own hair and as I don’t ever wear make-up it didn’t cross my mind. Thank you for that – I better have a word with her. Told you there would be something I forgot!!

      Yes Alex’s conversation with the solicitor should be interesting. xx


  2. I’m pleased that you and Georgie have sorted your wedding outfits. That’s got to be a great weight off your shoulders Jan and, yes, don’t forget the accessories – shoes, bag etc. Also whatever beautifying appointments you both need to make. You do seem to be well organised re the planning of the reception etc.
    I’m pleased you have had a good chat with Alex about ‘things’ at Lavinia Court and he will be able to help you with solicitors and the law. xx


    1. Lovely to hear from you again Maggie – the problem is that you think that you’ve done everything and then as Frances reminded me, I hadn’t considered hair or make-up! I still need to find us a second outfit each but hopefully that will be done this week.

      Yes, I feel better now that Alex and I have had a good chat about matters here. It is causing me some considerable upset – not entirely for my situation, but for the other residents who won’t know what to do and will be distraught if and when they realise the true position. I won’t let that situation arise without having an answer. xx


  3. I am impressed how well all your planning is going, its a wonder you have time to knit, you must constantly be making lists! Perhaps you should hire yourself out as a wedding planner. Would love to be a fly on the wall at the Solicitors meeting xx


    1. Angela, it’s lovely to hear from you today. I am keeping myself busy at the moment, although I’m not sure that I’m achieving very much. I enjoy my knitting and it gives me a chance to think while I work up the rows. It will be interesting to hear what the solicitor recommends – if anything!! xx


  4. It sounds like you have all the wedding planning under control! A friend of mine realised the day before her wedding that the shoes she’d ordered had never arrived, so she had to make a mad dash to the nearest shopping centre. We were all surprised that she didn’t just wear her usual Doc Martens under her dress! Hope you get some good advice from the solicitor. Moving elsewhere might be an option, but you could end up somewhere really boring, and what would we all do for entertainment then? LOL xx


    1. Hazel – yes, I had completely forgotten about hair and make-up till Frances reminded me. Now I don’t wear make-up, so that’s my excuse!! I think we are both happy doing our own hair – Georgie particularly as she will be wearing a hat, and it will just ruin any expensive hairstyle completely.
      It’s difficult to know the right thing to do about the situation here. I agree “better the devil you know” but things can’t carry on in this manner. xx


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